Good Mental Health and Connection
Why connection matters
Why is it that even in a crowded room, we can sometimes feel lonely? Connection is more than being around people—it’s about feeling seen, understood, and supported. As humans, we are wired for connection.
From an evolutionary perspective, relationships were once vital for survival. Our ancestors depended on one another for protection from predators, for hunting, and for raising children. While modern life no longer requires us to huddle together for survival, the need for connection hasn’t faded. In fact, it may be more important now than ever.
The pandemic made this truth painfully clear. Isolation showed us just how deeply our mental health depends on meaningful connection. Loneliness isn’t just uncomfortable—it can be damaging to our wellbeing.
The science of loneliness
Our ability to form healthy bonds begins in childhood. When we have caregivers who are attuned and responsive to our needs, our brains develop crucial foundations for emotional regulation, self-worth, and communication. But even if those early models were missing, all is not lost. The brain is wonderfully adaptable. We can learn how to love, care, and develop social competence at any stage of life.
When we build healthy connections, it benefits not only ourselves but also those around us. Ancient wisdom echoes this truth. The book of Ecclesiastes reminds us that “two are better than one.” While often quoted in the context of marriage, this principle applies to all relationships: we thrive together. Modern research agrees. The World Health Organization’s 2025 report on social connection highlights how disconnection fuels loneliness—and how loneliness, in turn, harms both mental and physical health.
Three ways to build connection
So, what can we do? Connection doesn’t have to be complicated. Here are three simple ways to start:
- Reach out intentionally: Call, message, or better yet, meet up with someone you haven’t spoken to in a while.
- Create small rituals: Whether it’s a weekly coffee, a monthly dinner, or a daily walk, consistency builds bonds.
- Practice presence: When you’re with someone, listen deeply. Put the phone away. Let them feel heard.
Connection isn’t something that just happens—it’s something we cultivate. Who can you encourage today? Who in your life needs to know they matter?
Look after your mental health by investing in relationships, even if it’s just with a small handful of people. Because when we strengthen our connections, we don’t just survive—we thrive.
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